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Domestic abuse

You are not alone

Domestic abuse is a crime. It affects many families across Caerphilly. Women (often pregnant) and children are those mostly affected by domestic abuse, usually when drugs or alcohol are involved, but men may be affected by domestic abuse too.

Children do hear, they do see and they are aware of violence at home, even if you think they aren’t. Children react in different ways to violence and research suggests that they are more likely to become abusers or victims later in life. Offer them a positive role model so that they learn other ways of behaving.

Many people find it difficult to understand why people stay in abusive situations. Fear, love, the risk of homelessness and money worries can make it difficult for women with children to leave and some may want to stay put and get their abuser to leave. It is your responsibility to protect your child and remove them from harm. You can seek help from a range of specialist services in Caerphilly. You can also report incidents to the Police.

What is domestic abuse?

Abuse can be physical, sexual or verbal. It can also include things such as the constant breaking of trust, psychological games, harassment and financial control.

What do I do now?

If you want to leave an abusive relationship and are worried about safety, you do not have to suffer alone. There is support out there. There are three important steps you must take:

How domestic abuse affects children

Children are affected in many ways. They may feel frightened, become withdrawn, aggressive or difficult, bedwet, run away, have problems at school, lack concentration and suffer emotional upset.

Long-term effects

The longer children are exposed to violence, the more severe the effects on them are. These can include a lack of respect for the non-violent parent, loss of self-confidence (which will affect their ability to form relationships in the future), being over-protective of a parent, loss of childhood, problems at school and running away. Children need time to discuss the feelings they have about violence or abuse. Children need to know that it is not their fault and that this is not the way relationships should be.

Stop

Any violence or abuse between adults at home will negatively affect children.

Think

Take responsibility by seeking help to stop or make it stop.

Do

In an emergency, call 999. Get support and help now. The longer it lasts, the more damaging it becomes.